Jealousy - Envy
Envy: Lusting or longing for a thing or condition or attribute belonging to someone else.
Jealousy: Inordinate obsession for something, someone, or condition that is the object of someone’s attention or ardor, whishing to possess exclusively, the thing or person in question.
Philosophy: Destructive to all. Life destroying, relationships disaster, can produce inordinate emotions and uncommon greed for person or things.
We have all experienced jealousy and envy; these life threatening emotions, at some time or other. The secret is to let them go, throw them away, cast them into the sea of forgetfulness!
I know I have often experienced envy. Someone more beautiful, more talented, more accomplished, more intelligent, having more beautiful clothes, jewelry, home, exotic automobile, getting the promotion or raise at work, getting the "good account" and on and on and... Curiously enough, these envious emotions did not acquire any of these things I envied, for me. In point of fact, I became sad thinking I would not achieve all the things I envied possession of. That is an intensely soul deflating ordeal... DO NOT GO THERE; it takes tremendous energy to get back from that kind of emotional low!
You are what you are, you have what you have. Always remember, (I had to really meditate on this) you cannot metamorphosis yourself to look like someone else, or clone their talent or personality. Even if you did, you would be a CLONE a copycat, an unoriginal! Pity the poor souls who spend their lives being their hero's shadows, poor copies of the real thing, instead of being a sparkling original, stretching their horizons to be the best they can be with the talent and PERSONALITY God gave them. It takes less work and imagination to expand and improve on yourself, than it does to research, stalk, and practice being an inferior COPY of someone else.
Envy is the tax which all
distinction must pay.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
As to envying people's possessions, have you ever watched children throw tantrums to get something another child has, or even aggressively take that thing away from the child? What happens? Within just a few moments that acquired item is abandoned, thrown aside and forgotten. We do not evolve very far from this situation as adults, if we acquire the thing we envy so much, it soon loses its appeal and glitter and is thrown aside for a new object of envy. It becomes a vicious circle of envying bigger and further removed from possibility things. When you envy the job or position of someone, remember what Jesus said when a man was envious of Him, He told the man to be sure he could bare the same fate that Jesus was going to bare, on His way to the ultimate Cross. In other words, have you paid the price the person who has what you want has paid? Maybe you could be in a similar circumstance, had you gone through the steps and preparation and perhaps the hardships the person you envy has gone through. You cannot envy anyone and be true to yourself. Remember Lucifer's decline when he became envious of his GOD!
Jealousy is the most insidious, most life destroying emotion known to the human race! Jealousy ruins more lives and causes more deaths than wars, robberies, gang wars or any other lethal crimes you can think of. Lucifer became Satan, by exercising his jealousy of GOD"S position and trying to usurp the love and adorations given to GOD! If that can happen to the most honored and powerful angel in heaven, what does it do to us poor humans? It completely destroys your ability to reason or really love the person you are having jealous feelings about!
We cannot control or change our own emotions, so how do you imagine we can control the emotions of others? We cannot make someone love us, nor can we change their feelings of love for someone other than ourselves, so all we accomplish by trying, are frustration and finally anger, even destroying wrath, to the point we become destructive of the object of our jealous love and ourselves. Let it go, move on, love yourself enough to not let their lack of love or attention to you control your life. Accept the level of love they can give you and do not obsessively try to control their attention and feelings for you. Do not be offended if they also care about other people or love someone more than you. Find someone who does care, or direct your love and prayers to GOD for love and guidance and someone just for you to love rationally and without bad thoughts and emotions. Do not destroy others and yourself because you cannot have what you want emotionally, like the three year old having a tantrum in the store 'cause he cannot have that candy bar, or because his baby sibling gets more attention than he does! Jealousy is, after all, a childish emotion handled in a childish tantrum way with the power an adult can generate in a most disastrous way! You are grander and nobler than that! Grow up emotionally, and appreciate the love and attention you do receive, bask in it and enjoy!
- Savanah Hindi ©