Breaking Up Advice
This is my advice to my friends who are breaking up.
Where did your love, passion, and romance go? What storm rolled away the sunshine in your souls? What has kindled the anger and venom you now exchange? May I offer some advice? I'll give it anyway!
1. Separate awhile, simmer down, cool off, back off and examine your emotions.
2. Keep a picture of your soul mate close, look and remember the loving days and ways!
3. Write each other a really angry letter stating all the faults and shortcomings you find in each other, reiterate the mean things you said to each other! Keep copy of your letter for yourself.
4. NOW! Read the letter before you send it and honestly, dispassionately see how many things you found fault with are also your faults .How many mean things you said were said back to you.
5. If you still feel the same way, still feel the hurt and anger, mail the letter! Keep a copy of your letter for yourself.
6. If you get a letter from your mate, compare it to the one you wrote. (If you do not get a letter, good, there is hope. Just examine your own letter again, see if it still reflects your feelings.)
7. Now meditate on the similarities - investigate the differences.
8. Now make a list of all the things you have loved and appreciated about your loved one. Remember and write down all the good and fine things. If the good list is longer than your letter, write and send a love letter asking for and giving forgiveness! Seek a loving compromising reunion.
10. If the letter is longer than the good list, write a Dear John, Dear Jane letter of goodbye, mail it and move on!
- Savanah Hindi ©
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.
- C.S. Lewis